The counselor is an instrument of change, and the perception that the client has of him is more important than his methods or theories. Therefore it is important that you have a personality that generates trust, respect, support, and freedom.
Encouraging: that fosters hope and promotes the client’s potential for growth and development. You must believe and convey that each client has the potential to change and fulfill.
Artistic: that is sensitive and responsible and, at the same time, creative and flexible that he adapts to the needs of his client and shows him humanity and closeness when he expresses his feelings.
Emotional stability: be aware that your clients could have serious mental health problems, and it is necessary to avoid creating confusion and insecurities. A counselor never uses a client to solve her own problems.
Empathetic: being sensitive to the client’s emotional states, being able to communicate and understand them to encourage the client to take on their life. Empathy is the ability to feel with and like the client, to enter the client’s world, and understand their perceptions of reality.
Self-knowledge: having knowledge of their own limits and needs. You must take the time to think and reflect on yourself and your life.
Open: freely communicate your thoughts and feelings to help the client open up. The counselor’s openness allows the client to open up because he or she perceives that whoever helps him is sincere. A counselor is not scandalized by his client but listens to him carefully.
Brave: to recognize that you are imperfect but authentic and competent. A counselor always reveals his own personality and is consistent in his words and actions.
He has a positive image of himself on a personal and professional level and transmits it to his clients. He has the ability to take care of himself, except himself, and seek the good for himself.
Patient: Recognize that the helping process is very complex and requires significant effort to listen and lead a conversation.
Without prejudice: you do not impose your values, beliefs, or ideas on the client but rather commit yourself to help them, enthusing them about life, and transmitting optimism. However, he is able to honestly communicate his own thoughts and feelings.
He is a fulfilled person: he likes what he does and strives to do his best. You have the ability to act here and now in the helping relationship.
Tolerant: in the face of ambiguities or inconsistencies that may occur in the process. A counselor never knows for sure which method is best for his client or what will happen during a session.